On Using Sex Toys With Partners...

Sometimes I am a source for important stories. Here is one that appeared recently in an article on Hello Giggles

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“I was 16 spending the night at my best friend’s house with her partner when she whipped out a lime green vibrator.”

My first experience with a sex toy was also my first experience using a sex toy with a partner; I was 16 spending the night with my best friend and her partner when she whipped out a lime green vibrator. We took turns using the vibrator on each other, alternating with the real penis attached to the boyfriend — he and she seemed quite experienced with the device and I followed suit.

It would be over a decade later before another sex toy appeared during partnered sex; this time [it was] a Magic Wand belonging to my then-boyfriend and always plugged in beside his bed. He was a well-endowed man and one night while I was struggling with anal sex, I impulsively reached down and placed the device under my belly with the head on my clit as he entered me from behind. This was how I discovered my A-spot, or rather, that my vagina could “weep with pleasure;” the secondary stimulation allowed me to receive my partner more deeply to the point where he was able to reach that special cluster of nerves at the end of my vaginal canal via the wall shared with my rectum.

Five years ago I struggled with a partner whose general anxiety led him to spontaneously lose his erection in the middle of intercourse, often when I was super stimulated and not keen on stopping. It happened again while at my place and rather than give up, he asked for my toys then took the dildo from my hands and stuck it in my mouth like it was his cock. He proceeded to penetrate me while I used a second toy for outer stimulation; the dildo became his disembodied penis and he wielded it as if it was his own. It was this encounter that later inspired me to confidently pull out my toys and begin masturbating should any other partner suffer the same misfortune. Using toys with a partner takes the pressure off performance and allows me to demonstrate exactly what I like. Also it’s super hot to watch someone self stimulate so there’s that.

—Brianne (40), a woman from New York